Oct 7th, 2019
When something doesn’t go so well in your world, do you tend to bounce back or fall apart?
You can navigate change and bounce back from adversity by learning skills and strategies to become more resilient.
Hi this is Grant Herbert, International Influence and Sustainable Performance Coach, and today I want to have a conversation with you about resilience.
Resilience is all about you harnessing the inner strength to help you rebound from setback or challenge. When you lack resilience, you might dwell on problems, feel like a victim, become overwhelmed or turn to unhealthy coping strategies…
Let’s be clear here, Resilience won't make your problems go away but resilience can give you the ability to see beyond them, find more enjoyment in life and better handle your stress. If you aren't as resilient as you'd like to be, you can develop skills to become more resilient…
And that’s where we are going to focus over the next few weeks.
There are many roadblocks that stand in the way of resilience that you need to become aware of before you add new skills. Let’s take a look at some of them and see what rings true for you.
Unhealthy habits, mindsets, thoughts, self-talk and behaviour. They all get in the way.
Fearing what might happen if things change and you have to expand your current comfort zone.
Having a low level of emotional understanding and not being able to respond to events in a healthy way.
This can all leave you vulnerable to distress and burnout.
Resilience can help protect you from various mental health conditions, such as depression and anxiety. Resilience can also help offset factors that increase the risk of mental health conditions, such as being bullied or previous trauma. If you have an existing mental health condition, being resilient can improve your ability to cope. By the way, please seek help from your health professional before employing any strategies that you hear from me.
Here are some of the results that you can have when you overcome the roadblocks.
- You can go from unhealthy habits to exercising self-care
- You see things as they really are, keeping them in perspective.
- You become more able to change direction without breaking
- And you bounce back when you are stretched.
All this comes from Resilience.
Resilience is the ability to roll with the punches.
When stress, adversity or trauma strikes, you still experience anger, grief and pain, but you're able to keep functioning — both physically and psychologically. However, resilience isn't about toughing it out, being stoic or going it alone.
In fact, being able to reach out to others for support is a key component of being resilient.
Let’s unpack what it takes to be resilient and then chat about some things that have helped me personally go from stressed to strong.
Resilience is perseverance and diligence in the face of setbacks and there are 5 crucial ingredients to becoming more resilient.
Let’s take a look at these ingredients and set an intention for where we are going to go over the next few weeks.
Number 1 is Getting More Clarity
Number 2 is Taking Care of yourself
Number 3 is Building your Confidence
Number 4 is Staying in Control and
number 5 is maintaining strong Connections.
So where do you see yourself on the RESILIENCE scale? Is this something you could benefit from working on? I would love to read your thoughts and questions in the comments below.
So that’s it for another week. Over the coming weeks we will continue the conversation around resilience and go deeper on the 5 crucial ingredients. See you then!